From being a taboo to being a necessity, sex covers a spectrum of emotions. Though surrounded by its fair share of controversy, sex is essentially just a bodily function driven by human hormones.
Besides the biochemical aspect, it’s ultimately our experiences and expectations that eventually shape our sexuality and our sex life.
Know this, a good sex life takes time and effort and in this fast paced world keeping it high and active isn’t easy. As couples age in a relationship, sex takes a back seat and there is a lull in lovemaking, so it’s important to add stimulating aspects to it to keep it interesting.
Remember, having good sex doesn’t necessarily mean spending hours in the sack; it can be as simple as doing something a little different just for a change. We list some such things you can try to liven things up in the bedroom.
Blindfold
Let’s start with the easy one. Blindfolding your partner is one of the most common yet stimulating things you can try. The thought behind this is to awaken all your sensory organs by blocking one, which will in turn charge up your brain. Blindfold also helps increase anticipation. The blindfolded individual will be teased into wondering about the partner’s next move, making the experience even more sensual. Just make sure you know when to stop, so that you don’t end up over-stimulating the nerve endings which may null the sensation completely.
Get in touch with your sensual side
A great love life is all about self confidence and understanding your own body and mind. You need to be in charge to your sensuality and sexuality by finding ways to increase your sexual confidence and awareness. Sensual foreplay is perhaps the most sexy thing you can do for your partner. A relaxing rubdown can unlock the body and lead to some great action. Keep the massage sensual and not too deep to prevent your partner from falling asleep. The key is to keep a firm touch but use something light to caress.
Dress Up
Easy to do and so much fun, role play is a really simple way to spice up things in the sack! It’s a way to trick the mind to thinking something new is happening with someone old. It also means you can behave differently for better sex. In most couples it’s the woman who prefers playing dress because let’s face it, they enjoy it and have resources to change their look better than men.
Abstain
We know it sounds crazy, but it totally works! It’s human psychology to run after something you can’t have and the same rule applies between the sheets. After being together for a while, sex goes on auto pilot mode often leading to boredom. Couples tend to rush through sex and not enjoy foreplay, so try abstaining to build the anticipation. Also, make sure you while you lay off the act, take time to tease yourself and your partner by touching, kissing and caressing. We guarantee that by the time you’re done, you’ll be so excited that you’ll barely be able to stand it.
Dirty Talk
Our number one suggestion to get things rocking is dirty talk. It has worked in the past and will continue to work for generations to come. Words have an effect on brain and we tend to respond to it automatically. It can evoke a range of emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, especially for women. Talking dirty is an art form that requires practice, so don’t deter if it initially leads to giggles.
